Tantric sex dates back to ancient Eastern tradition and if practiced correctly, can push couples to orgasm repeatedly, more intensely, and more often. Tempting, no? Roughly translated from Sanskrit, "tantra" means "woven together," physically—and oh,the positions you can try—and mentally. It is like sexual meditation, where your conscious and subconscious are focused on the touches and breaths of you and your partner—nothing more.
Jim Alfaro, an engineer, and Gloria Alfaro, a homemaker and business owner, tell Esquire what it is like to pursue this extraordinary sexual harmony.
Him: For me, I would probably have to say four or five orgasms, maybe. For her—I don't know, 10 or 12?
Her: The last time, jeez...lose track. I don't know, 15? It varies. It might be three hours, but it's not necessarily three hours of having sex. It's much more than that.
Him: We start out facing each other—in the Yab-Yum position, which is me cross-legged and her sitting in my lap facing me, generally with our foreheads touching. We synchronize our breathing.
Her: You hold your mouth in a certain position—Cobra Breath—and breathe in the energy.
Him: One of us will start to speed up. There's a term in tantra—latihan—which means "moving in the unknown." We clear the mind of any conscious thought of, Oh, I want to do this or that, and let the body do what it wants.
Her: He can literally touch me with one finger gently on my neck—not even move his finger—and I will orgasm.
Him: I can have an orgasm without ejaculation. The first time it happened there was this rush of, Oh, what's going on? And then I realized what it was. There's a spot where you do something they call external prostate massage. She did that to me for a few minutes and I had maybe three or four orgasms, a few minutes each. All your senses are heightened. I could smell the scent from the shampoo in her hair.
Her: We had intercourse in the Yab-Yum position—I put my hands on the floor and leaned back. Then I think we got on the bed in a missionary position, then he put my knees behind my ears, with me on my back—I'm fairly flexible. After that he was more on his knees and pulled my legs in front of his body. Then we put my legs down, and I put one leg down and had the other one bent—still on my back. Then doggy style. I think that's it.
From: Esquire US.