Simona Fusco, model, actress, philanthropist and founder of Beverly Hills matchmaking firm Perfect 12 shares the secrets to modern-day dating, in her own words.
Having been one of the top matchmakers for the past 10 years, I’ve had daily contact with some of the hottest girls out there, many of which are models and celebrities. I have a fairly accurate idea of what women, especially models and celebrities are looking for in their ideal man. It boils down to a combination of common sense and “good old-fashioned values.” Whether you are dating an accomplished lady or a knockout model/celeb, here are 12 pointers:
1 | Conversation starters
Don't: Do not start a conversation by telling her how hot she is. She hears it every day from men trying to pick her up. It's not special and won't impress her.
Do: Try a common interest to talk about. Maybe a hobby, restaurant, movie, or maybe something about that moment. Be witty, interesting, and funny.
2 | Social media and texting
Don’t: Be casual in your intentions and relationships. Before the advent of texting and social media, you actually had to pick up the phone and talk to someone; meet them in person. It leaves little room for misunderstandings. It’s all too easy to not put any effort in!
Do: Pick up the phone or ask to meet in person. Instead of sending her a text she might misunderstand, express yourself in person. Let her see the facial expressions to match your words. That might just get the reaction you were looking for.
3 | Courtship
Don’t: Don’t push yourself on her or manipulate your way into her life. If she’s not interested in dating you, then no matter how much you text or call her, it’ll only make you look unstable. Imagine if she tried to manipulate her way into your life, I’m sure you wouldn’t want to date her.
Do: Take your time getting to know her. Just as you don’t respect a girl who “moves too fast,” neither will she respect a guy who’s too quick. If you are interested in pursuing a long-term relationship with her, make slow and steady headway with each date. Forget the one-night stands.
4 | Wine and Dine
Don’t: Don’t show up dressed like a surprise slob. Put some effort into it! If you don’t have much fashion sense, talk to a friend who is or check out a men’s magazine (Ed: *ahem*) and see what’s in Vogue!
Do: Girls love gifts and surprises. When you pick her up for dinner, bring some unique flowers or a box of sweets. You don’t have to spend an arm and a leg, but it goes a long way to show her your appreciation and thoughtfulness. Above all it’s romantic!
5 | Manners
Don’t: Don’t go Dutch and offer to split the tab or make her pay. It’s a surefire way of not getting a second date.
Do: Gentlemen pay for the date. Gentleman hold the door open for their date. Gentlemen walk their dates to their car and front door. Gentlemen will make plans with you on the phone.
6 | The “Ex” Dialogue
Don't: Whatever you do, don't talk about your ex and what a b*tch she was. It makes you look bitter and still stuck on the past. Not to mention it makes a girl wonder what you’ll say about her.
Do: If the ex convo does come up, tell your date you’ve learned from the experience and now you know what you do and don't want. Be the bigger person and be positive!
7 | Demeanour
Don't: Throw jealous tantrums, check her phone, go through her texts and emails or stalk her on social media. You’ll be branded a creeper and think she can do better since you’re intent on believing she can.
Do: Be confident but don't be selfish. When dating a beautiful woman, no matter if she's a celeb or not, it's inevitable that she'll have all eyes on her–especially from the opposite sex. You’ll need to be the better man and keep your cool.
8 | Keep It Need To Know
Don't: Don't involve your friends and family in every detail of your dating life. Friends might intervene and get jealous of you dating a beautiful woman/model/celeb. Last thing you want is a hand manipulating your relationship.
Do: Keep your personal life private. Discuss with your date about how you two want to handle social media posts—do you or don’t you want to tag or not to tag? Important stuff to think about when it comes to your well-known lady.
9 | Embracing Life
Don't: Don’t be lazy and wait for life to come to you. When you meet this woman, you want to be ready and your very best. Let her see you are a driven, educated, and healthy individual.
Do: Educate yourself, work hard, play hard, keep your mind and body healthy and clear, have something to offer with your education, stability, and/or personality.
10 | Independence
Don’t: be a Debbie downer and complain about her busy schedule. She's an independent, accomplished woman, and she wants someone equal in her life.
Do: Be positive and encouraging. You should be independent yourself. Show her that you want to be with her, but it doesn’t have to be all the time. Show that your time is valuable just like hers and make the most of the time you can spend with her.
11 | Value
Don't: Think about what she can do for you. You want her to notice that you’re a selfless, giving human being who is not just interested in sleeping with her, but actually cares about her on a deeper level. In return, she will want to make you happy!
Do: Find out how you can bring value to her life. How do you improve her quality of life with your presence? If you can provide happiness, partnership, security, friendship, she’ll want to keep you around.
12 | Above all, be yourself and don't pretend to be someone you're not. In the end, the truth prevails.